Dad Refuses to Pay for Daughter’s $200,000 Destination Wedding

A father from New York sparked a heated debate on Reddit after sharing his dilemma about his daughter’s extravagant wedding plans. Posting in the AITA (Am I The A*****e) forum, he explained that he had promised to pay for her wedding—but didn’t expect her dream to cost $200,000.

The daughter wants a destination wedding in New Zealand with up to 200 guests, and the father feels the cost is excessive. Although he and his wife can afford it, he calls it “burning money” and fears it will upset other family members. His wife supports the idea, but now both she and their daughter are not speaking to him.

Reddit users mostly took the father’s side. Many said that if the daughter wants such an expensive wedding, she should pay for it herself. Others suggested a compromise: offer a fixed amount, and let her plan within that budget.

One commenter said, “You’re not obligated to fund a luxury wedding. Give her a budget and let her decide.” The father hasn’t posted any updates, but the situation has clearly caused family tension.

This story highlights the emotional challenges parents face when balancing love, financial boundaries, and expectations.